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Slowing down: when faster isn’t better

Slowing down can mean taking pressure out of a decision, a conversation or an activity. The right pace is agreed, not measured against a timer.

Identify what feels rushed

You might need more information before buying, more privacy before talking or less pressure during touch. Name the actual situation. A vague instruction to relax can make someone feel responsible for the pressure.

Offer a concrete alternative

Suggest one option: reading the manual together, talking another day or choosing nonsexual company. Ask whether that option is welcome. A slower version of an unwanted activity is still unwanted.

Treat discomfort as information

Stop an activity that hurts. Slower movement is not a diagnosis or a universal remedy. Frequent or severe pain needs assessment, and coercion needs a safety response rather than a better pacing exercise.

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Before you decide

Does slowing down give us a real choice, including the choice to stop altogether?

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